Valentines Day: The Hearts, the Flowers… And the Law!
Whether we mark it in some way (Galentines or Palentines welcome!) or not, the 14th of February reminds us of the romantic celebration of love, but perhaps not generally of the life planning and the sensible and sensitive stuff that goes hand in hand with being committed to another.
Being in a couple is defined by society, culture and the law, but it is also self-defined.
In the lead-up to Valentine’s Day 2026, one global fast-food chain was reported to be giving away meals to anyone presenting as ‘’a couple.
This is, in fact, untrue, an urban myth, and were it the case, every lawyer, in every land, would immediately question the small print linked to such a qualifying group, and the possible subsequent discrimination claims!
That restaurant chain is in fact offering discounts on some lines to all, and heart-shaped this and that menu items, so that’s safe.
And rather lovely for everyone’s pocket.
Modern Love Looks Different in 2026
This year, statistics have been released, by various research and think tanks, that younger adults, are stepping away from the traditional marriage timeline, while over‑50s, are hitching (perhaps after previously ditching), with gusto!
Clearly, younger generations still value love (actually) deeply, but they’re approaching commitment differently. Several forces are pushing marriage further down the timeline or making it a non-issue for many, including:
- Financial pressure from housing costs, student debt, and unstable wages;
- Career and personal growth priorities taking centre stage, and
- Higher expectations for emotional compatibility and equality, so not ‘’putting up with’’ or ‘’making the best of’’, in other words ‘’ not settling’’ for the less than best.
It would seem that (based on those empirical and not just anecdotal) studies, younger adults often treat Valentine’s Day as a celebration of connection, in all its shapes and sizes, so dating, friendships, chosen family, or self‑love and well-being.
The pressure to hit traditional milestones has eased, and choice and freedom prevail, as they should.
Similar considerations are influencing the falling birth rates around the world, with the impact of climate change and political unrest being added to the mix.
And increasingly, children are being born into unmarried relationships, bringing us full circle with this discussion.
Cohabitation Agreements: Protection Without Marriage
More couples are living together before marriage, or instead of marriage, and cohabitation agreements have never been more relevant as practical, and arguably romantic, mechanisms for setting out shared ideals and intentions.
These agreements outline how finances, property, and responsibilities (including the care of children) are shared, offering protection if the relationship ends, and potentially avoiding Court applications, associated stress, significant costs, and delay.
Why Over-50s Are Choosing Marriage
Conversely, the general trend is that older adults are embracing solemn vows (of all persuasions), often for reasons rooted in clarity and choice, such as…
- Greater financial stability;
- Life experience sharpening an understanding of what they (really, really) want;
- Second‑chance love after divorce or widowhood (and later life divorce reflecting ‘’not settling’’, or tolerating an intolerable marriage), and
- Longer, healthier lives making companionship more appealing.
Pre-Marital Agreements: Planning With Confidence
As with cohabitation agreements, pre‑marital agreements are becoming increasingly common.
They help protect assets built over a lifetime; ensure children from previous relationships are provided for and reduce the risk of financial disputes later.
These agreements enable couples to commit with confidence and transparency, reinforcing the trust they have in one another.
Cohabitation agreements and pre‑marital agreements fit naturally into this landscape, and of course, both are available to all, even one after the other, with an engagement in the middle.
They are tools that help couples protect what matters, reduce uncertainty, and build relationships on a foundation of clarity and respect.
Protecting Your Relationship With Clarity and Care
Strong relationships are built on communication and the ability to have agency over one’s life choices, so that they genuinely reflect your own, very personal values.
Whether you’re living together, planning a wedding, or entering a later‑life partnership, taking time to talk openly about expectations can strengthen the foundation you’re building.
A cohabitation agreement or pre‑marital agreement gives you space to explore options, understand the implications, and design arrangements that feel fair and future‑proof. It’s not about anticipating conflict (well, it is a bit, necessarily!); it’s about giving yourselves the power and confidence to make informed, road‑tested plans together.
The Family Law team at Bennett Griffin LLP can expertly advise you how your version of romance can be legally protected. We believe that when clients feel heard and empowered, they can make decisions that protect their wellbeing, honour their values, and strengthen the relationships they’re choosing to build.
We look forward to hearing from you.
Disclaimer
This article provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. The law in this area can be complex, and the best course of action will depend on your individual circumstances. Please seek specific legal advice before taking action.