Parenting Plans for Separating Families: A Legal Guide from Bennett Griffin
Navigating separation or divorce is never easy, especially when children are involved.
At Bennett Griffin, our family law solicitors in Worthing and Chichester understand the emotional and legal complexities that come with co-parenting.
One of the most effective tools for creating stability and reducing conflict is a parenting plan.
What Is a Parenting Plan?
A parenting plan is a written agreement between separated or divorced parents that outlines how they will raise their child or children. While not legally binding unless formalised by a court order, it serves as a practical framework for cooperation and clarity.
A well-crafted parenting plan typically includes:
- Living arrangements and schedules to spend time with each parent
- Plans for holidays and special occasions (e.g. birthdays, Christmas, Easter, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day)
- Decisions around education and healthcare, such as vaccinations
- Communication methods between parents
- Guidelines for introducing new partners
By setting clear expectations, parenting plans help minimise misunderstandings and prioritise the welfare of your child.
Why Parenting Plans Matter After Separation or Divorce
At Bennett Griffin, we understand that separation brings emotional and logistical challenges, especially when children are involved.
A well-structured parenting plan can be a vital tool for reducing conflict and creating a stable environment for your child.
Here’s why parenting plans are so valuable:
- Clarity for both parents – Everyone knows what’s expected, reducing misunderstandings and tension.
- Consistency for your child – Routine and predictability help children feel secure during times of change.
- Focus on the child’s welfare – The plan keeps attention on what matters most: your child’s emotional and physical well-being.
- Minimised legal stress – A clear agreement can reduce the need for costly and stressful court proceedings or other forms of Non-Court Dispute Resolution (NCDR).
- Reference point for future decisions – When questions arise, the plan offers a shared framework to guide discussions.
Whether you’re based in Worthing, Chichester, or anywhere across West Sussex, our divorce and separation solicitors can help you create a parenting plan that reflects your child’s needs and your family’s unique circumstances.
What Should Be Included in a Parenting Plan?
Every family is unique, but a strong parenting plan should cover the key areas that affect your child’s daily life and long-term wellbeing. At Bennett Griffin, our family law solicitors in Worthing and Chichester help parents create parenting plans that are both practical and tailored to their circumstances.
Here are the essential elements to include:
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Living Arrangements
Clearly outline where your child will live and how time will be shared between parents. Include details for:
- School terms and weekends
- Holidays and special occasions (e.g. birthdays, Christmas, Easter)
- Travel logistics and handover arrangements
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Decision-Making Responsibilities
Specify who will make decisions about:
- Education and school choices
- Healthcare and vaccinations
- Religion and cultural practices
- Extracurricular activities
You may opt for joint decision-making or divide responsibilities based on practicality.
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Communication Between Parents
Define how you’ll communicate—whether by email, text, or a parenting app like OurFamilyWizard. Also include:
- How and when your child will stay in touch with each parent
- Guidelines to ensure communication doesn’t disrupt quality time
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Flexibility and Review Clauses
Life changes and your parenting plan should too. Include a review clause that allows for updates every 6–12 months or after key events such as:
- Change of school or residence
- Remarriage or new partners
- Significant changes in your child’s needs
Common Pitfalls to Avoid When Creating a Parenting Plan
Even with the best intentions, parenting plans can fall short if they’re vague, outdated, or overlook key details.
At Bennett Griffin, our family law solicitors in West Sussex help parents avoid common mistakes that can lead to confusion or conflict down the line.
Here are some frequent pitfalls to watch out for:
- Using vague language
Be specific. Ambiguity can lead to misinterpretation and disputes. For example, instead of saying “alternate weekends,” specify exact dates and times. - Overlooking holidays and special occasions
Plan ahead for school breaks, birthdays, and festive periods like Christmas and Easter. These are often flashpoints for disagreement. - Ignoring your child’s voice
Depending on their age and maturity, involving your child in the process can foster cooperation and emotional security. - Failing to update the plan
Circumstances change—your parenting plan should evolve too. Include a review clause to revisit the agreement regularly or after major life events.
By working with experienced family law solicitors for parenting issues at Bennett Griffin, you can create a parenting plan that’s clear, comprehensive, and built to last.
Email info@bennett-griffin.co.uk or call our Worthing or Chichester Family Law team on 01903 229999 or 01243 781000.